A friend asked me recently, "if she chooses him, will you push on, or let her go?"
In fact, we once talked about the very same thing. Back then, I told her that I'm the kind of guy who would let her go. That all I really want is for her to be happy, and if happiness lay with someone else, I wouldn't hold her back.
Now, well. I've been considering this question ever since she told me the other day there may be a possiblity she may decide to choose neither of us. I guess my answer today is that I'm willing to let her go if she's absolutely sure, without a doubt, that I'm not the one she wants to be with. There's no point forcing anything, after all.
But if there's even the slightest hope, the slimmest chance of possibility, I'll still push on and try to turn things around. After all this, I think I owe myself at least that much.
But now the friend in me whispers "you know what you've already put her through this entire period of time. If she's pretty sure you're not the one, even though she's not a hundred percent sure, might it not be better to give her some peace and accept her choice rather than drag it on for eternity? What if by pushing the issue, you don't even remain friends anymore?"
Sometimes I really hate the friend in me. He never seems to be on my side.
I guess I'll have to think about it some more.
Now, well. I've been considering this question ever since she told me the other day there may be a possiblity she may decide to choose neither of us. I guess my answer today is that I'm willing to let her go if she's absolutely sure, without a doubt, that I'm not the one she wants to be with. There's no point forcing anything, after all.
But if there's even the slightest hope, the slimmest chance of possibility, I'll still push on and try to turn things around. After all this, I think I owe myself at least that much.
But now the friend in me whispers "you know what you've already put her through this entire period of time. If she's pretty sure you're not the one, even though she's not a hundred percent sure, might it not be better to give her some peace and accept her choice rather than drag it on for eternity? What if by pushing the issue, you don't even remain friends anymore?"
Sometimes I really hate the friend in me. He never seems to be on my side.
I guess I'll have to think about it some more.
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